You are not needy

I am not the best at needing people, I feel like if I need someone I am being week or I am being needy. It's almost like a sign that I am not as confident and independent as I think I am, that I am weak and not able to handle things on my own. But I am learning that that is the exact opposite to the way God created us. He created us to need people, to need people to laugh with, people to cry with, people to encourage us, to pick us up when we fall down. Sometimes to literally drag us along when we feel like we cannot take another step. My mantra for years was “i’ve got my Sh*t together, I don’t need anyone” but that is absolutely the furthest from the truth. I realize now that it was a complete defense mechanism to not let anyone see that I had needs, that I didn’t have it all together, that I wasn’t totally happy and content in my life. That I had wants and needs and dreams too but if I let anyone see those needs I would be deemed as “weak or needy”.

We weren’t created to do this life alone, we were created to be in community with God and with people. In Ecclesiastes 4:4-12 it says “9 Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts. 10 For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up. 11 Also, if two lie down together, they can keep warm; but how can one person alone keep warm? 12 And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” Asking someone for help is so not a sign up weakness, letting someone know what you need is not needy, letting people into your mess does not show them you are a mess it shows them that you are human. I desperately need people in my life, I need people in my business, I need people to check in on me, to walk with me and sometimes carry me. I need people to listen, to encourage me, to celebrate with me to call me out in love when I am screwing up. Going it alone may seem like you have the most control but going it alone is just that, lonely. Let people in, don’t be afraid to tell people what you need… the saying goes “there is strength in numbers” and ain't that the truth. Find those people who challenge you, who will walk with you through the good and the bad, let them know that you need them and if that’s too much for them to handle then they are just not your people!!!!  I’m talking to myself here, telling people what you need is not a sign up weakness it's a sign that you are human and were created to be in community with those that God has placed in your life at this time because life is just better together!